Lesson 1 – LOVE
“One of the best ways to improve your marriage is to draw a circle around yourself and work on changing everyone inside that circle!” -Mike & Laurie Sheffield (adapted from John McGee)
1. What has informed your view of love up to this point in your life (Your family, friends, Hollywood, the internet, etc)?
2. How would you describe your parents’ marriage? In what ways is yours similar? In what ways is your marriage different?
3. Read 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Which of the qualities of love, from this passage, do you struggle with the most?
Which qualities, from this passage, would say say your spouse exemplifies best?
4. Why is it difficult for you to love your spouse the way Christ loves you?
5. Read 1 John 4:7-21
Write down any insights into God’s love and how YOU should love your spouse.
6. Write your spouse a note today, thanking them for their willingness to work together on your marriage.
Lesson 2 – Brokenness
“I am my biggest marital problems!” – Paul David Tripp
1st Aired on Thursday, October 8th, 2020
Read Psalm 139:23 & 24
1. Reflect on which ways you have been:
Until we each acknowledge the brokenness in our own hearts and turn to the One who is ready and willing to help you, your relationship will remain broken.
Read John 15:5
2. How do you think your sins have impacted your marriage? Be specific.
3. Share with your spouse your answers from questions 1 & 2 above. *NOTE: When listening to your spouse share their answers, please do not provide any feedback other than thanking them for sharing.
Read Psalm 51
4. Write down any personal observations from Psalm 51.
5. Action Item for this week: Write a note, email or verbally encourage your spouse with three characteristics that you appreciate about them.
Lesson 3 – GRACE
“But God, is so rich in mercy; he loved us so much that even though we were spiritually dead and doomed by our sins, he gave us back our lives again[a] when he raised Christ from the dead—only by his undeserved favor have we ever been saved—” Ephesians 2:4-5 TLB
Your relationship with God is grounded in grace, and so must your relationship with your spouse! It’s the foundational pillar to any healthy relationship. On today’s show we talked about: What grace is, what grace is not, when grace is offensive and why engage with God?
We asked you to consider: Do you have a “works-based” marriage or a “grace-based marriage”?
- Can you recall a time when your spouse has been gracious to you? How did this make you feel?
- Is it harder for you to receive grace or give grace? Why do you think it is this way?
- Many couples operate on a merit-based system and often keep score. Why do you believe this is ultimately destructive for any relationship?
- Have you responded to The Truth of The Gospel and received God’s gift of grace? Do you believe you need it?
READ: Colossians 4:6
5. From your perspective, how gracious is your speech? How could you improve in this area?
Action Item: Our spouses will frustrate, hurt or disappoint us. Look for an opportunity to extend grace to them this week.
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Lesson 4- Humility
“Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”-C.S. Lewis
1.) Is it difficult to show humility to your spouse? Why or why not?
2.)Humility In Marriage Can Look Like: serving your spouse, not having to be right, asking for forgiveness, studying your spouse, celebrating your spouses success, communicating kindly, putting your spouses need 1st. From this list, which areas could you most improve? Write down HOW you could improve, be specific.
3.)Ask your spouse to share 3 ways you can show humility or serve them. List your spouses answers.
Read: Philippians 2:1-18 and write down any observations you make.
*ACTION ITEM: This week, do some of the things that your spouse shared with you from question #3.
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Lesson 5 Forgiveness
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Lesson 6 Forgiveness In Action
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Main Idea: God calls you to live with your spouse in “an understanding way.” This means you will need to become a student of your spouse so that you can best love and celebrate them. Your relationship with your spouse is also tied to your relationship with God.